Deflecting Discouragement!

I’m blessed to get fan mail on a regular basis but yesterday I came across this private message in my inbox which really struck a chord with me – for 2 reasons. First of all, his personal achievement and ongoing progress is exactly why I made my tutorial series – a guide for the curious to get started and then eventually empower themselves to keep developing beyond my videos. “Teach a man to fish etc.”

Secondly, his experience of discouragement is something I could also relate to. A few years back, someone I considered a friend said to me “don’t expect to make an impact in the DJ world Angelo” ? On another occasion, a stranger in a bar told me “DJs are people who have failed at everything else in life.” Ouch! ? As an independent creative person finding my own way, I couldn’t help but be affected by comments like that and for years I struggled with my desire to become a professional DJ while I had a decent education and many of my school friends were becoming doctors, dentists, and accountants. Still to this day, I dread being asked the question “what do you do for a living Angelo?” because today the term “DJ” can sound so limiting and is often misunderstood or misrepresented. It just doesn’t cut it (pardon the pun ). To “make it” in 2016, you have to do so much more than just play music. Perhaps you guys can help me come up with a more inclusive job title? ? Thankfully, I’ve always been very passionate about what I do (and obsessively stubborn enough) to not let others completely stop me in my tracks ?

Anyway, there’s a point I was trying to make! What I’ve learned is:

1) If you believe you have experience worth sharing with others, then go ahead and share it with pride and thought because there’s always someone out there looking for the exact knowledge you possess. “A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle”. You could change the course of people’s lives for the better and cause a ripple effect. Or even better – start a legacy ?

2) Absolutely no one is safe from destructive criticism and very few people may share your opinion or vision. This is particularly common in creative/artistic industries where personal taste is a big factor and so many people consider themselves “experts”. But YOU are the only expert in pursuing your unique vision so let hurtful comments make you stronger, turn them into fuel, and propel yourself further towards your dream! 

Do you guy relate to this?


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